2nd Trimester Shenanigans

I was so excited to enter my second trimester because from what I heard… It all gets better after the 1st trimester…. LIES AGAIN!

But some stuff did get better… just not everything!!!  Okay, now lets get to the details!

 

SEX:

It’s a girl!

Technically you could find out at 12 weeks what the sex of the baby is or maybe even earlier with blood work but we decided to wait until our 18 weeks appointment to find out the sex. It was such a beautiful moment for us. Having a gender reveal obviously crossed our mind but it is so common and it is such a “thing” we decided to just find out with a sonogram & we do not regret it! It was a moment between just us two and I would totally suggest everyone else doing it this way too.

The Pressure:

At around 13 weeks I was living at my Moms because we were remodeling and I almost slipped, I lost my balance but got lucky and caught myself. I got an instant pain on my pubic bone and it literally felt like my pubic bone cracked down the middle. I googled it and it’s a thing! SPD: Symphysis Pubis Dysfunction, it feels like my pubic bone is bruised! and as time went on the pain only got more intense. It is worse when I am trying to switch positions in bed to fall asleep. I tell myself the pressure is just to prepare me for when she is ready to come out but WHO KNOWS!

The Morning AKA All Day Sickness:

It got worse! In fact even now in my 3rd trimester… I am still throwing up! It was at least twice a week up until I hit my 20 weeks! Some weeks were better than others but once I hit my 20 weeks it got increasingly better and I went from throwing up multiple times a week to only once a week.

Nipple Pain

It didn’t go away, and even though it was annoying AF, at least it was a sign I was still pregnant!

THE MIGRAINES:

OH MY GOD!!!! From about week 12 to week 20 it all changed dramatically! But for those 8 weeks I had a migraine once a week! When you’re pregnant you are allowed to take medicines such as Tylenol but I am not a fan of medicine and typically just let whatever sickness or pain run it’s course. Scents seem to trigger my headaches. I can smell everything 20x’s stronger! At first I get a head ache and then it hits my stomach. & that’s the end! I end up throwing up multiple times and of course this triggers migraines. It feels like I actually threw up more my second trimester than my first. The first month I was nauseous but I could just stuff some bread in my mouth and that would take it away. Not this time.What did I do to help it?! Essential oils, caffeine (coke), naps, bubble baths, Gatorade and I even blacked out the bedroom. A mix of all these, the pain typically lasted for 12-24 hours. I remember laying in the bath with a Gatorade, a wet towel over my head to cover my eyes & of course pure silence. I would cry & tell myself…. it’s going to pass! This pain will go away! Crying did not help, it only made it worse and sometimes I would have to get out of the tub to throw up and then return to the tub directly after. My baths usually lasted 1-3 hours and I sometimes even took a nap in the tub. I remember waking up and the pain being gone completely, it was amazing!!! As long as my nap was up to 4 hours the pain was relieved enough to let me function!

The only time I missed work was when I went home for lunch to take a nap with a migraine & when it was time to go back to work I threw up all over myself. Yes! I cried like a baby, called my boss and did not return to work. It was the first and only time the whole pregnancy that I missed work and luckily it was only 4 hours.

 

 

 

Belly Bump

My belly bump has arrived and everyone wants to touch it. To be honest… I have a thing with belly’s and belly buttons and I don’t want anyone touching mine, nor do I want to touch anyone’s. But especially after having a miscarriage I feel like I should appreciate the fact that I can have a baby and let people enjoy the pregnancy with me. Sometimes I karate chop peoples hand away until I realize what I did so I end up letting them touch me after explaining that i’m not a fan. This may change & I may actually like people touching me once my belly gets hard but until then… I hate it.

 

Heart Beat

My heart beat is so strong. If I close my eyes and focus I can hear it. I can even see it in my belly when I lay down and can feel it in my thighs when I touch them. It’s beautiful, crazy and kind of freaks me out sometimes. Some days when I am trying to sleep I can hear my heart beat so loud that it sounds like a drum. At first I thought it was her heartbeat but after doing some research it’s actually mine, it is just magnified because of the increased blood flow.

 

20 Weeks:

I know everyone says the second trimester is so much better it is like night & day! Well for me that was true but it was not until week 20. After that I truly started enjoying my pregnancy.

The Dreams: 

The good and bad

Good: I saw her! I SAW MY BABY! During the 2nd trimester I had about 3 dreams where I was actually holding her!!! She is everything I ever imagined and every time I saw her she looked about the same. I can not wait to see her so I can see if my dreams were accurate!

Bad & Scary: 

I also had nightmares! I had dreams where she literally tore through my belly to come out, some where she came out missing fingers and dreams where labor did not go great & I ended up having to get a hysterectomy mixed with all kinds of other scary stuff. Most of them was me going into labor at home and having to deliver her myself. One day I remember waking up crying so bad that I even woke up Ruben…. I had  other random nightmares but those were nothing compared to the ones related to my baby.

The cravings:

Milk, Oranges or Orange Juice and spicy stuff.

Heart Burn:

I’ve never had heart burn so… HOLY SHIT!!!!!!!! It felt like I had a 50 pound weight on my chest! I felt so bad I felt like I was having a heart attach or stroke! I never felt that pain so in my mind I was dying! I am not even being dramatic, I even went to CVS to get my blood pressure checked & I seriously thought I was going to have to be taken to the hospital. It was not until I told my mom about the pain and she laughed and told me it was just heart burn. Yes, I felt stupid after that but still felt like shit! To help my heart burn all I did was drink milk and go to sleep and when I woke up it was gone.

My Belly Button:

I HATE BELLY BUTTONS and pregnant belly buttons freak me out! So all I want during my pregnancy is for my belly button to stay an innie & so far IT’S STILL AN INNIE!!!

My Stretch Marks:

I already had stretch marks so getting stretch marks was not one of my biggest concerns. I have them and I knew I would get them, I still use tons of oils & lotions and put them on  about 2-3 times a day but am still getting them. I only had stretch marks on my sides and hips from when I hit puberty but the belly ones came around 20 weeks.

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Swollen / Numbness:

I only got this sensation twice so it was not a HUGE deal  during my second trimester but it was still something I had never heard of. I did not really get swollen but I did get this pain under my knuckles and once in my toes & foot. It felt like a mixture of them being asleep and them having liquid in between the joints. It was very painful, all I could do was squish my hand or foot in order to relieve the pain. I still don’t know what caused it or what it was but IT WAS HORRIBLE and I am glad it just happened twice!

 

Sinuses:

Oh brother, I have has sinus issues since October and even now in December they have not gone away or got any better! It’s quite annoying but I guess my immune system being lower than usual is making it harder and taking longer for my body to get over them.

Weight Gain:

25 pounds.

Like everyone else I hope to gain 30 pounds max but I know my body so my realistic goal was no more than 50 pounds. I am aware some people gain 100+ pounds so I wanted to set a realistic goal, so far I am doing good, lets just hope that doesn’t change this last trimester. 50 pounds might sound like a lot but I have always been thicker than most and my body is definitely not a small frame.

 

Her Name: Finding out the gender means we get to pick a name & we went with

Adelah Rex Ortiz

 

Adelah- is Ariels older sisters name from The Little Mermaid. It is spelled Adela but I decided to spell it differently.

Rex- I’ve always liked Rex as a name but thought it would be cute as a middle name for her.

Anti-Social

I am still anti-social, I don’t want to see people. I am fine staying home and doing nothing! It’s so unlike me but I secretly love it!!!

The Honest Truth

This second trimester has been one of the hardest times for me. I am not sure if it’s just fear of change, hormones or what!? But our relationship as husband and wife was on the rocks during month 4&5. This is not something people usually share, including me! No one wants to share the ugly but I literally wanted to leave him.. and I think he wanted to leave me too. I know, it’s crazy! Ruben and I have been together 9+ years and have never been this bad. I felt like we were just at different stages of our life. At this point I feel like a mom, I realized I do care what people think of me and I don’t feel like going out is acceptable when I have a huge pregnant belly… I feel like it’s time for me to calm down, stay home, prepare my home for my baby and honestly my whole world has already begun to revolve around my baby girl. Ruben on the other hand… and I don’t think it’s necessarily bad BUT I feel like in his mind… this is the last couple of months that he can actually go out, drink and be a 24 year old! Ruben is not normally like this, anyone who knows Ruben knows he’s a home body. He loves being home and is just a chill guy. He has fun watching TV, being on his phone and napping so it was a complete flip and I honestly completely understood him because he is not carrying this baby and is trying to get it all out of his system while he still can. But when your going through it and are the one in the relationship it feels like the end of the world. Especially when you are pregnant, over dramatic and extra sensitive like me! Pregnancy has completely changed me as a person and I hope it is just for the time being. I feel like being alone, I normally find every reason to leave the house and go with friends or just be anywhere but home. So Ruben and I have completely flopped and it took a toll on our relationship. We eventually worked past it but this was the last thing I expected to deal with while being pregnant. It’s something I expected a boyfriend & girlfriend to go through… not a married couple. Now being almost completely passed – I say almost because I still want to be a homebody and he still wants to go out. We have gotten better and compromise more, that seems to be working out for us. Month 6 was a lot better and even now in month 7 we have been getting along great… FINALLY!

 

Time

Time is flying! It feels like forever but is also going so fast!!!!

Entering the 3rd trimester! The end is near!

 

The end is coming!

 

 

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MY HELL OF A FIRST TRIMESTER

FIRST TRIMESTER SHENANIGANS. 

Before I go on and explain my whole pregnancy keep in mind that this is just my story and what I went through. Everyone is different and everyone’s pain tolerance is different. When I am on my period I have no symptoms and no cramps… don’t hate me just yet!  I know I am probably rare. I have never stained anything, had back or stomach cramps, no stabbing sensations, no headaches or migraines NOTHING!

I feel ya! 

Girls! I now feel for you because since day one of my pregnancy I have had it all!!!!! Well… technically 2 days after having sex! We did IT on a Monday night and by Wednesday I was already having fertility pains.

Within the 1st 4 weeks I already had back cramps, abdominal cramps and lets not forget morning sickness! The best way to describe one of the pains was literally getting stabbed by an imaginary knife! I was literally thinking someone must have a voodoo doll of me and is stabbing me RIGHT NOW! Its so sudden so I would be sitting, minding my own business and SURPRISE!!! VAGINA STAB! In order to release back pressure and my back pains I literally had to sit down like this…

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Morning sickness 

My morning sickness was easily fixed! I found out fast that bread was an instant fix for my morning sickness. Although I knew this would MAKE me gain weight fast I had to in order to not feel like throwing up which is something I could not do since I had just started a new job. Oh yeah by the way. I got my new job an literally 3 days lter is when I got a positive pregnancy test.

Cotton mouth

This is a pregnancy symptom! I have had it since week four & it makes me so thirsty ALL THE TIME!!!

I cried like a little bitch

The first month I was so sensitive! I literally cried during every episode of Grey’s Anatomy. Then I would just wake up crying for no reason! Ruben would literally hold me as if I was a baby! Luckily that wore off as we got to the second month. I had days where I was sensitive but it was only like once a week versus every day.

Weight gain

By the end of the first trimester I was up 8 pounds… That’s double what your supposed to be. It also didn’t help that I didn’t workout even though I am used to it because when my last pregnancy ended in a miscarriage, I was criticized by many people that it was because I did not give up my regular workout routine. So this time I gave in to the people and did not workout. THIS I REGRET NOW! I wish I would have just sent a big F-U and done my own thing. But I started walking at least 3-4 days a week after week 10 because those are the most sensitive weeks in your pregnancy… or so I read.

Green!

I have not been able to eat anything green… lettuce, spinach, even avocado! I know! It only started with greens. Later included chicken nuggets (which I am obsessed with) then other various meats. Most fast food Mexican places are a NO! But I can definitely do a burger :). I feel like I can taste chemicals in most fast foods.

Wednesdays

It didn’t take me long to realize that Wednesdays were not my days. I am not sure why but every Wednesday I throw up or feel like I have been run over! This is also the day I turn a new week pregnant so I am not sure if that has anything to do with it?

I want to stay home!

I do not want to see or do anything! I have had friends want to hang out or go out and I do not want any part of it. I just want to stay home and do nothing with my tummy. Partly because I have no energy but also because… I just don’t want to. Growing up a lot of my friends started having babies and to be honest I slowly stopped hanging out with them. I figured they have a whole new chapter going on and I am sure they are busy. Several of my friends have brought it to my attention saying they got pregnant and I disappeared. I didn’t mean to disappear but now that I am going through it I realize that it’s probably because that’s what I expect. It could be that but I also feel hideous some days and I just don’t want to have to put on make up or dress up. I just want to stay in my jammies & do absolutely nothing! I have for sure become anti social this pregnancy!

Beer?

I love beer and alcohol but to be honest I do not crave or want it. Every so often I sniff my husbands breath when he goes to sleep after a beer or 2 because I do love that smell. I always have and I am surly loving it now. In fact I am shocked that I haven’t craved it…  yet at least. Speaking of scents, I LOVE MY HUSBANDS SCENT. I can always sniff him and fall asleep happily, but lately I am not sure why… some days I will literally have to face the other way and stick my nose in my shirt! I feel so mean saying that! I’m sure it’s just temporarily though. 🙂

NOW THE SMALL LISTS OF PRO’S!

Spoiled rotten

I usually am already spoiled by my husband and family BUT now its multiplied! My mom and mother in law send me food, sometimes healthy & sometimes not so much. My husband already typically caters to me but now it’s just a little more. Everytime he went to the store he would bring me chocolate! We would stop at a gas station and I would ask him to get me a water & nothing else because I wanted to watch  my weight… and here he comes out of the gasoline station with a HUGE Hersheys bar or Snickers. As time went on and the more weight I gained I eventually had to tell him I was seriously concerned about getting diabetes so he finally stopped. The only thing with getting spoiled is that I do feel like it might get old so I am trying not to take advantage because I still have 6 more months of this!

The gift of fertility

Another pro is realizing the gift it is to be able to hold a baby inside. As a child one of my biggest fears was not being able to have children and then when I had my miscarriage that only multiplied. So far everything is checking out to be fine and I feel like this is a true blessing and gift.

Other than that…

Pregnancy sucks! I love my baby but I feel miserable, useless, emotionally & physically drained! I also feel psychotic, over dramatic and extra sensitive. The list could go on I SWEAR!

Here are some pics… I’m not a skinny girl so my belly honestly just looks fat at this point. BUT you can see it when I lay down. 

And a pic of me with clothes

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You’ll be updated with my second trimester soon! Bye now!

 

Shit has changed!

It’s been a while since my last post do here’s a quick and kind of uneventful update…

I got a new job with the city near me and it’s been a huge adjustment for me. Less pay but more benefits and I went from casual attire to business attire. The less pay is taking me a while to get used to… so has the fact that I have to go in at a certain time and leave at a certain time with no flexibility. KIND OF SUCKS!

 

A week after I started I FOUND OUT I WAS PREGNANT!!!! SO BE READY TO SEE SOME PREGNANCY BLOG POSTS!!!!

 

 

Tanias Bday

Instead of giving my best friend a gift for her B-day I decided to take her somewhere she hasn’t been. Deep Ellum. Deep Ellum is in Dallas and only an hour away so after work I picked her up and off to Deep Ellum we went.

 

1st stop 42 Murals (Not sure if you could tell but…. I love elephants)img_2872img_2871img_2875img_2864

Our 2nd stop was Serious Pizza – Of course I forgot to take a picture….

(So just imagine a HUGE yummy slice of pizza)

After dinner is desert! So we stopped and grabbed rolled Ice-cream at Chills 360

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We walked, talked and ate our ice-cream and then ran into this CUTE store called Jade & Clover. I FELL IN LOVE<3

PINK COUCH = GOALS!!!

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Afterwards Tania was supposed to meet up with a friend for drinks so we cut it short and headed back to Fort Worth.

So happy I spent part of her day with her.

24 looks good on you Tania ❤

Happy Birthday!

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Music is my escape.

The artist of the month for me so far is Maclemore. His music and deep and beautiful.He has some serious songs and some fun (dance crazy, sing in the shower songs) I love artist who can make you cry and then the make you want to dance on the next song…Here are 2 of my current favs

My cute attempt at the Military Diet.

 

Day1

Expectations 

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Reality

7am  8oz of hot water, 8oz of apple juice, 1 dash of cayenne pepper, 1 dash of cinnamon, 1tbs of apple cider vinegar (ACV)

8:30 Toasted wheat bread with peanut butter.

10am Half of a grapefruit.

11am 8oz hot water, 8oz of pineapple juice, 1tbs of ACV

30 min walk and jog on couch to 5k

1pm Tuna on toast with a cup of coffee (I added mayo and relish even though it is supposed to be plain)

2:45pm 8oz of hot water, 8oz of pineapple juice, 1tbs of ACV

3:30pm 1/2 a banana (because I am not wastefull -I bought the mini bananas)

5pm 45 min weight day

6:30pm I cheated and had 2 hot pockets 😂

8pm 8oz or water, lemon juice, 1tbs or honey, cayenne pepper, cinnamon.

 9:30 pmGreen tea with mint

-I felt like I was eating all day. Never hungry until after my workout where I couldn’t wait to cook dinner and I have in 😭

Day 2 

Expectations

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Reality

 

-I decided to stick with it even though I had cheated.

8:30am 8oz of water, 1tbs ACV, 1tbs of lemon juice, 1tbs of honey, dash of cayanne pepper, 2 dashes of cinnamon
9am boiled egg

11am wheat toast

12pm banana

45 min walk 

2pm pretzels and hummus

(yes I cheated again… I’m just not good at following diets)

2:30 8oz water, ACV, pineapple juice

3:30 dark chocolate (yuuup I did it again)

5pm Half a banana

I don’t have everything I need for tonight’s dinner so of course… once again…. FAIL

6pm 2 slices of pizza

7:30 1/2 a hot dog and 1/2 a bag of hot fries (Baseball game food)

10pm 34 oz of water

 

Day 3   

Expectations

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Reality

 

I should just give up because I mean obviously I have no will power… but here we go.

8am 8oz of water, 1dash of lemon juice 1 dash of honey, 1 dash of cinnamon, 1 dash of cayenne pepper

10am 5 crackers and 1 slice of cheese

11:30 8 oz of water, 1 freshly squeezed grapefruit, 1tbs of ACV

12pm 30 min walk & jog

1pm Toast with a boiled egg

3pm POPCORN!

This is about to look really bad…..

7:30pm …. Bacon burger with sweet potato fries

10pm 8oz of hot water, 1tbs of lemon juice, 1 tbs of honey, 1tbs of ACV, 1 dash of cinnamon and 1 dash of cayenne pepper.

 

THIS IS EXTREMELY HARD BECAUSE I HAVE NO CONTROL

AND WHEN I TELL MY SELF I CAN’T DO SOMETHING

I HAVE TO!! I DON’T KNOW WHY!!!